Many couples come into therapy and say something that sounds encouraging at first: “We actually don’t fight that much anymore.” Sometimes they say it with relief. Sometimes with a shrug. Often it’s offered as evidence that things are mostly fine. And sometimes that’s true. Fewer arguments can absolutely be a sign that a relationship has […]

It all starts with bids for connection. Bids are verbal or nonverbal gestures between partners that signal a need for connection. They can be big or small, spoken or unspoken, obvious or subtle. A bid might look like: Each bid is a way of asking: Do I matter to you? Are you here with me? […]

In relationships, it’s natural to want to change the people we care about. We often see potential in them and believe that if they just adjusted certain behaviors, everything would be better. However, this desire can lead to frustration and disappointment because, ultimately, we cannot control others. The key to a fulfilling relationship lies in […]

Walking through any supermarket, it’s impossible to ignore Cupid’s presence—aisles overflowing with chocolates, flowers, and everything wrapped in pink and red. Valentine’s Day is making its annual return. For some, it’s a highly anticipated dinner reservation and a night of celebration. For others, it can feel like an unwelcome reminder of loneliness, intensifying feelings of […]

Here’s an interesting way to kick off the month: studies show that 88% of people who set New Year’s resolutions abandon them within the first two weeks. But what if we reframe the way we approach resolutions altogether? February 1st, or any other date, can be your personal “January 1st.” The calendar doesn’t dictate when […]

For many, the holiday season is a time of joy, connection, and celebration. But for others, it can bring feelings of sadness, loneliness, and even depression. The pressure to feel merry, combined with family dynamics, financial stress, or memories of loss, can make this time of year especially difficult. If you’re struggling with holiday depression, […]

I’m excited to announce that my telehealth therapy services are now available not only in California but also in Colorado, Oregon, Wisconsin, Vermont, Florida, and Idaho. This expansion allows me to reach more individuals and couples who are seeking therapy for anxiety and depression, relationship issues, intimacy & connection, sex therapy, and more, regardless of […]