Many people have heard the name Gottman thrown around in the context of relationships and communication, but the actual Gottman Method is a very well research-based therapeutic and structured model to treat couples who are experiencing challenges in communication. The Gottman’s state that The Gottman Method model is utilized "to disarm conflicting verbal communication; increase intimacy, respect, and affection; remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy, and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.".
Through their research, The Gottmans found that happy couples experience at least five positive interactions for every negative interaction during conflict. Conversely, the Gottmans were able to predict the likelihood of a couple staying together versus breaking up based on how often the couple uses one of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse during conflict: Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling and Contempt.
Show you how to increase the number of positive interactions on a day-to-day basis, so that when conflict does arise (and it will) the Four Horsemen are not weaponized in communication. Minimizing or eliminating the Four Horsemen won’t fix all the issues, but it will give you the opportunity to talk things through in a productive and supportive manner as a couple. Many people are drawn to the Gottman Method due to its extensive resources of tangible and practical communication tools to implement in everyday life.